In and Around the House
The home, both inside and out, gives many opportunities in which to experience new positions. The Kama Sutra has some positions you thought you'd probably never try, but most of them aren't really that hard. Trying some of them might involve a great deal of laughter or it might lead you to whole new discoveries for sexual satisfaction.
Spread a lush carpet or blanket in front of the fireplace. Bring as many pillows out as you can find. They'll give you a variety of options for shaping your environment to suit the positions you might want to try.
There are many opportunities inside the house to experiment with new positions. The kitchen table is often the perfect height for intercourse. Try the counter for oral sex. Have the woman bend over the arm of the overstuffed chair in the living room for rear entry. The woman can also sit on the arm of the sofa and have her partner kneel on the cushions as he enters her. This is a good position in which to put one of your feet up on the back of the couch. Choose the side of the couch that will best allow you freedom of movement and maximum G-spot access.
Get yourselves a hassock. They are fantastic for the Modified Yab/Yum Position. The man sits on the hassock and his partner seats herself on top of him and closes her legs around him. He supports her back with his hands. This position is easy on his back. It gives both partners the freedom to rock, grind, and undulate to their hearts' content.
Swinging and Swaying
“Sitting face to face in bed, her breasts pressed tight against your chest, let each of you lock heels behind the other's waist, and lean back clasping one another's wrists. Now, set the swing gently in motion, your beloved, in pretended fear, clinging to your body with her flawless limbs, cooing and moaning with pleasure: this is The Swing.” This is a more advanced position, as it requires a lot of mobility and strong stomach muscles. Don't lie all the way down—just lean back so that you can get the swing going that makes this position so unique.
“If, by means of some contraption, your lover suspends herself above you, places your lingam in her yoni and pulleys herself up and down upon it, it is called The Orissan.” Love swings reappeared a few years back as a result of the new interest in the Kama Sutra. Old Kama Sutra paintings show couples making love on them.
A variety of positions can be played with, and best of all, one or both partners can be weightless in a swing. Sometimes the woman is in the swing and is positioned above the man who is reclining on the floor or bed. Sometimes they are in separate swings near each other. In the modern versions, you can even get in together. They are portable, fun, and versatile.
There are only about twenty-four positions or postures in the whole Kama Sutra. Couples are left to explore variations to the themes on their own, as they mature in their ability to create pleasure for each other.
Swings promote relaxation and multiple orgasmic responses in both men and women. Men will most likely find them a good tool for learning and maintaining ejaculation control. Because they're so portable, you can hang them in strategic locations around your home and garden, and enjoy them anywhere.
Snakelike Spooning Positions
“Spooning” positions are a wonderful addition to any couple's repertoire of lovemaking. They are especially great for either the very beginning or the very end of a lovemaking session. Because these positions are greatly nurturing, partners can use them to connect deeply before making love, or they can use them at the very end, for holding and lying still in those magical moments before drifting off to sleep.
These positions can be used whether the man's penis is erect or not. Just holding each other in these positions has its place in any lovemaking situation. They can also be used when the two of you desire to make love but the woman is low on energy, or when both of you are more tired than usual and you want to stay very mellow. With the woman in front and the man behind holding her, the couple can gently undulate, whether having intercourse, or just bonding.
In the spoonlike position, you generally assume a position similar to spoons lying next to each other. Front to front or back to front with either the man or the woman in front, depending on who needs the most cuddling. Bring the arm and hand that is under you to the front, under the person in front, so that you can hold them near their heart area. The other hand can come over the top to hold their pelvis region close to yours. Pull them to you and snuggle up close.
Spoon positions allow the couple to move their pelvises freely. Undulating in these positions is particularly sensual and erotic. Use this variety of position for pairings in which the man has a very large lingam and the woman is on the smaller side. When he is behind her, her thighs create more friction for the man's pleasure when he is inside of her and she won't be as vulnerable to being hurt.
The Crow or “69” Position
“If the pair of you lie side by side, facing opposite ways, and kiss each other's secret parts, it is known as The Crow” (Part 2, Chapter 9, Sutra 34).
This is the classic “69” position that is very well known in contemporary society. It is one of the few positions in the Kama Sutra that isn't actually a position of intercourse. Nevertheless, it is named as a position. When two women are in this position, it is called “The Gobbling of the Fishes.”
Sometimes the Crow isn't a perfect fit, though. If the partners are very different in height, it can be difficult to reach each other's genitals. In the case of male-female lovers, the woman often ends up being a bit more active because of the exterior nature of the man's genitals. It is more conducive to orgasm to have the mouth free for deep breathing during love play. This isn't possible in the 69 position because both lovers are “giving” and their mouths are busy.
The Crow is the only way that partners can engage in oral sex at the same time. Both get stimulated simultaneously. Either lover can be on top. It's an easy position to flip over in for variety.
Men often like faster, harder stimulation than women. When a couple falls in sync during lovemaking, the man may be leading and this can cause the woman to feel like she's not getting the kind of stimulation she likes. They may need to slow down and focus on her a little more. Use your nails to lightly scratch and your mouth to lightly bite. Use sound to add to the variety. Growl and howl, groan and whimper, moan and hum!
The Clasping Position
“When, during actual congress, the legs of both the lovers are straightened and stretched, it is called the Clasping Position” (Part 2, Chapter 6, Sutra 16). This position can be done with the partners facing each other sideways, or with the man on top of the woman. It's a quiet position that is restful and refreshing. It is the position a couple would be in before moving into the Twinning Position.
The Twinning Position
“‘The twinning position' results when, in ‘the clasping position', the woman turns her left thigh to the right and the right one to the left. The mutual turning of the thigh contracts the abdomen even more than in other positions” (Part 2, Chapter 6, Sutra 19). Literally, the woman wraps one of her legs around the thigh of her lover—either side will do. This allows for deeper penetration and movement, especially on the part of the woman.
It's hard for some people to focus on receiving attention while they are giving attention. The Crow or 69 Position is an example of this. Be aware that this may be a position you will want to explore, but it may not work for both of you to have orgasms in.