From a Jewish point of view, gifts are not required to be given to attendants and others by the bride and groom since accompanying the bride and goom is considered itself a great honor and mitzvah. At the same time Judaism does require hakarat hatov, the recognition of the good that people have done for us.

In American tradition, the bride and groom usually give gifts of thanks to their attendants and to the maid of honor and best man. In addition, the ring bearer, flower girls, and parents are usually recognized and given gifts as well. These gifts are usually things such as jewelry and are often monogrammed. Typically they are bestowed before the wedding at a special dinner.

Giving gifts to the attendants and certainly to one's parents and others who have helped make your special day possible is an appropriate act of thanks and hakarat hatov. Some Jewish brides and grooms choose to give something Jewish that people will use often, such as a leatherbound prayer book embossed with the name of the recipient and the date of the wedding.