To See or Not to See, That Is the Question
There is a Jewish tradition for the bride and groom not to see each other for a period of time before the wedding. Even if you do not consider yourself very religious or strongly observant, you may find great meaning in this custom. Of course, not seeing each other just before your wedding can be stressful also, since you are on the verge of committing your lives to each other and are so much in love. Perhaps, though, that is precisely the time to let your heart grow fonder, to reflect on your loved one and what it is like to be without him.
In addition, the period just before the wedding is very stressful. Some brides and grooms find that although they love each other, the pre-wedding stress of last minute plans can actually take a toll on their relationship. Some brides and grooms become stressed and edgy and just need to focus on the last details of the wedding. It is perhaps one of the least romantic times to be together.
The custom of bride and groom not seeing each other before the wedding is actually a relatively recent one, and there are several customs that have emerged regarding how long this separation should last. The most common custom is not to see each other for the week before the wedding, but some couples do not see each other for several days before the wedding. Many couples do not see each other before the ceremony on the day of the wedding. Customs in Judaism are very important, but the couple must weigh the spiritual power of being apart with the difficult logistical problems it can sometimes create. Today many couples who do observe this tradition of separation talk on the phone and communicate through e-mail and text messages.