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The Wrong Coping Strategies

How many times have you tried something that you knew didn’t work particularly well just because you felt as though you had do something? Or because you were more comfortable trying something familiar? Or because you'd run out of other things to try? These are just some of the reasons women turn time and again to things that only help deal with PMS in the short term, if they help at all. Some choices are more about ignoring PMS rather than dealing with it.

Essential

If PMS is overwhelming you, consider therapy, which can teach better coping strategies to deal with your symptoms, as well as the sources of stress in your life.

Overeating

You feel lousy; you’re bloated, depressed and discouraged. you want to do is eat some ice cream, a big bowl of spaghetti, some cheese pizza. PMS-induced food cravings for sweets, salt, carbohydrates may be caused by low levels of serotonin. experts believe that women eat these foods as a way to regulate moods. In other words, eating is self-medication. Whether the about food cravings and serotonin is accurate, giving in to by stuffing yourself with these foods ultimately will make worse. American culture is obsessed by appearance, often expense of health. Overeating is unhealthy, and it makes bad about your supposed lack of control. It also has the potential make your PMS much worse, since being overweight is a risk for getting PMS.

Focusing on Your Symptoms

Thinking about how bad your symptoms are is a surefire way to feel worse. A number of studies have shown that the more women know about PMS, the worse they feel. This may be because the knowledge legitimizes their experience; they always felt pain or discomfort but never attributed it to PMS. Or it may be because the women now pay attention to symptoms they had previously ignored. Constant negative thinking about PMS is a self-fulfilling prophecy: the more you think about how bad you feel, the worse you actually will feel. There's something to be said for looking on the bright side of things.

Taking It Out on Others or Yourself

Yes, you feel terrible, and yes, you want to lash out, but that strategy backfires as well. The people in your life—your spouse, siblings, children, friends—feel attacked and may become angry or fearful. They learn to avoid you. Meanwhile, even when you’re in the grips of your worst PMS anger, there’s usually a small part you that realizes you’re being unreasonable or acting out of proportion to the situation. So while yelling at your husband feels good justified in the moment, it ultimately alienates him and makes you feel remorseful.

Yes, you have PMS and are sometimes mean to others. Stop beating yourself up about it! PMS is driven by biology. You’re not bad person because you yell at your spouse or your kids. If you feel as though you need to be perfect, PMS is sure to undermine your self-esteem when you inevitably fail at behaving as you think you should.

Avoiding Treatment

Telling yourself that you'll just have to live with your symptoms is one of the worst things you can do to yourself and your family. The symptoms you attribute to PMS may actually be caused by another disease. If you don't get it treated, you could be jeopardizing your health. Also, PMS symptoms take a toll on your body and over time can lead to serious health issues. For example, some women have PMS symptoms that begin at ovulation and persist through the end of their period, resulting in a three-week ordeal with only a one-week break between symptoms. Over time, they become so emotionally and physically exhausted from the PMS that the one-week break is not sufficient to rejuvenate and their symptoms begin to look like a chronic mood disorder. Getting treated in a case like this may provide some long-term relief.

Escaping

Some women are so bothered by their PMS symptoms they turn to alcohol, drugs, shopping, or overeating as a way of escaping. Don't let PMS drive you into habits that are self-destructive, unhealthy, expensive. Other women have such significant emotional symptoms that they withdraw socially during their premenstrual phase. too is potentially harmful because this kind of escapism cuts off from the very people who can provide you with a support that will help you better manage your PMS.

Pushing Yourself

Pushing yourself to achieve more in a given day or a week common way we deal with our stressful lives. You figure if just get this one errand, this one project, this one chore completed, then you could catch up on all the things you’ve let slip. never seem to catch up. It’s similar with PMS. Many women try their normal lives even when they are physically or emotionally They think that they have to do everything they’d normally do, but this habit of pushing themselves beyond their abilities leaves them feeling more stressed. Cut yourself a break and yourself when you’re feeling below par because of PMS.

Making Medications Your Lifeline

Medications, whether anti-inflammatories, diuretics, or can truly be helpful, but ultimately, they treat the not the causes. Medical experts haven’t figured out a treat the cause of PMS, short of menopause. Since medications often so effective, however, you may be tempted to medicate symptoms instead of adjusting your lifestyle to include changing your diet, or getting therapy, all of which can help a healthier, less stressful life.

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