If you choose to be in a committed relationship, you must accept the fact that there will be disagreements between you and your partner. Some of these will escalate into fights. To deal with disagreements in a constructive way, you need to establish rules for fair fighting. Any rules you decide on should be tailored to your unique relationship. Someone who can't tolerate a voice raised in anger (many people) is going to need a rule that both partners use a normal tone of voice when fighting. This chapter contains ten rules of fair fighting along with some examples and explanations of how each rule helps you make your marriage happy.