Loving is much bigger than sexuality. Loving does not need sexuality, but sexuality, to be fully experienced, needs love. Sexual, sensual, erotic love is the glue that bonds two people in relationship. At its best, your sexuality is a physical, emotional, and spiritual experience — the complete joining of two into one. Like money, however, sexuality is often the site of power struggles in marriage. To keep sex from becoming a bargaining chip in your relationship, you need to give it a sacred, inviolable place in your lives. You need to make it a vital topic for ongoing, intimate communication.