Doing Things Differently
People often wonder and ask why the divorce rate is higher for second and third marriages when compared to first marriages. There is an assumption that because people have been through the pain of a marital break-up once, they should have an incentive not to repeat it. They should, after learning from previous mistakes, also (theoretically) possess more relationship skills. Yes, they should have both greater incentive, and better skills, and yet they don't necessarily have either. Call it human nature, but, unfortunately, once you've broken a vow, it's much easier to break the same promise a second time — a reality that contributes to the higher failure rates of each subsequent marriage after your first divorce. Therefore, if you haven't yet filled in the blanks on your self-inventory, now is the time to do so. You stand to grow as an individual, and you may indeed find the right partner for you and with that person cocreate a beautiful and peaceful new relationship.