Make no mistake about it; divorce is a profound emotional, financial, and spiritual disruption. Many men and women will say they consider a divorce to have been the worst experience of their lives. Usually, the spouse initiating a divorce carries the guilt, while the one not wanting the marriage to break up assumes the anger — and the role of victim. In reality, both spouses suffer enormously before, during, and after a divorce occurs. No one, not even a therapist, can tell someone if and when she should seek a divorce. In this section some reflections on divorce are offered in hopes of lending a new perspective to those facing this painful decision.