If, as researchers say, romance fades for most couples within six to nine months of their wedding day, how are you supposed to maintain a satisfying sex life for the years and decades you hope to spend with your spouse? Forget about ignoring the problem; untreated problems only get worse. Nor should you expect to find marital happiness by becoming celibate buddies with your spouse, essentially shutting down your sexuality. Unless two parties agree to a cessation of sexual relations for health or another mutually acceptable reason, leaving sensuality or sexuality out of the marriage can leave one partner bitter and the relationship weaker.