Above all, your main responsibility is to provide all the love and support you can for your bride during this planning period. You may think that you're feeling the stress of this wedding, and you could use some support yourself — and that's what she's there for. Be aware, though, that most brides take wedding mishaps and stresses more to heart than men do. This all goes back to little girls dreaming about their perfect weddings, while the little boys are off doing something else. When the dream starts unraveling, even a little, there can be big trouble.

When your fiancée is telling you for the umpteenth time that she can't decide on the color for the bridesmaid dresses, don't turn your back on her in favor of watching the game on TV. This may be old news to you, but it's a big deal to her. (If you want to make it a bigger deal, try ignoring her.) Remember that you're entering into a lifelong partnership with this woman. This is just the tip of the iceberg.

Offer her some sympathy. Remind her that this wedding is ultimately about the two of you spending forever together. Tell her you love her, you love the wedding plans, and you think she's beautiful even when she's crying.

If you've got some wedding headaches of your own, offer them up and commiserate with your honey for a while. Maybe the two of you will decide that you should scale this wedding down to a more manageable size; maybe you'll work out some alternate plans; or maybe you'll realize that this is just part and parcel of planning the big wedding. Whatever the case, you'll realize that you're in this together — which can be a great comfort in times of upheaval and stress.