You're going to want to get your guests up and grooving at some point in the evening. A reception without music is like a summer night without crickets — there's just something missing without background noise. Will you choose a band, a DJ, a string quartet, or your own mix of music?

DJs

One perk of hiring a DJ is that he will probably have the latest, hippest, now-est music, and will therefore be a big hit with the younger crowd. For these same reasons, the older crowd may be turned off by him or her. If you're going to be inviting a lot of elderly relatives, ask your DJ if he has a collection of standards — Big Bands, Sinatra, and the like.

When interviewing a DJ, ask for a sample play list. If he's into hip-hop, and you're Country through-and-through, keep looking for someone whose tastes (and music library) are more similar to yours. Ask him for some references, and ask about other weddings that he's been booked for. Check this guy out thoroughly. Music makes or breaks a party, so you want to know that this guy is going to get the job done right.

You'll want to ask about the DJ's experience; how many hours he will spin the platters at the reception; how he will dress for your big day; whether he has appropriate music for your cocktail hour; and if his price quote includes gratuity.

Live Music

Maybe you're thinking you'd like a live band instead of a DJ. If you've already heard them play at another function, (and this is where you got the great idea to hire them for your own wedding), your work is done. Call them, book them, high five them. If you're going on the recommendation of a friend or relative, you're going to have to hunt these musicians down and hear them play.

If you decide they're competent musicians and they're welcome to entertain your guests, you'll meet with the business head of the band and discuss the music for your reception. Be aware that although you may have your heart set on a particular song for your first dance with the bride, the band may not include this particular song in their repertoire. You may have to be flexible.

If you're planning a luncheon or afternoon reception, you might want to consider a string quartet or a jazz ensemble. Your guests won't be expecting to hit the dance floor before dark, and you'll be providing them with some easy listening.

No matter which music you're leaning toward, you should check out the DJ or the musicians in person before you sign a contract with them. Whether they're appearing in a club or at a function, you should be able to see them at work before you give them the green light for your reception. Try to catch them on at least two occasions, to make sure that their amazing performance last weekend wasn't just a freak accident.