Alternatives to the Traditional Stag
You don't want to upset your fiancée with the bachelor party, which she's been crying over for a month now. Or maybe you just don't feel comfortable with the whole idea — you've never been a bar-goer, and you're not a drinker. If you're looking for something that suits your personality a little better than the traditional beer-and-stripper stag, consider an alternative night on the town.Coed Bachelor/ette Party
Sometimes it just doesn't make sense for the bride and groom and all of their friends and relatives to split into separate camps for single-sex parties. The bride may have a number of close male friends, while your close relationships might predominantly include females — friends, sisters, cousins. A coed party is a great way to get these groups together and mingling before the wedding, and in a way that's far more comfortable than bringing random guests together based on their gender.
If you and the bride decide a coed party is a better option for you and your friends, let it be known early on, before your friends start planning separate parties for each of you. The two of you can either take on the planning yourselves, or you can help your respective friends out with the initial planning stages and let them co-plan the evening from there.
For example, if your fiancée's best friend is a man, how comfortable is he really going to be at your bachelor party, with your friends and your family? Likewise, if you and your sister are very close, wouldn't she rather be included in a party with you than spend an evening making small talk with the bride's friends?
Another reason to think about a coed party is to get the wedding party talking — before the wedding. If you and your bride have two completely different sets of friends — people who are complete strangers to one another — you might be a little concerned about how everyone is going to get along when you pair them up and send them down the aisle together. Give them a chance to really get to know each other beforehand.Sporty Groom
You're into the golf scene or the outdoors. So why not plan a bachelor outing instead of the traditional night in a tavern?
Grab the guys and play a round of golf. Celebrate afterward with steaks and a round of drinks in the clubhouse. Fishing's your sport? Make a weekend of it. Rent a cabin on the lake and invite your closest friends. If hiking is your thing, race each other to the top of the mountain and toast your impending marriage at the summit. You can turn any hobby or sport into a bachelor outing or an entire weekend. Consider what you could make of these guys-only vacations:
A lot of men find trips with their buddies far more appealing than spending the night in a loud club trying to be heard over the music and commotion. And it's virtually impossible to get in trouble with a stripper while climbing a mountain in the heat of the day (