Why Can't Sex Be Simple?
Why all the fussing and fretting about sex? Why can't sex be simple? Well, it could be, if the human mind didn't have the tendency to want to be in control of the human body. Most people have been taught to trust their minds and ignore messages from their bodies. All the major institutions of socialization — churches, schools, businesses, and even family — teach you to control your impulses so you don't get into trouble or embarrass yourself or someone else.
As you get older, the mind begins to exert yet another type of control. You learn that it's not safe to do things that might offend or upset people. So you learn how to behave to get other peoples' approval. By the time you have your first adult sexual experience, the whole area of sexual relationships has gotten pretty complicated. You have learned numerous strategies for controlling yourself and for manipulating the opinions and feelings of others. This situation does not bode well for enjoying a lifetime of great sex.
Worry is one of the common killers of great sex. Humans worry about everything. Most of the time it is a futile exercise that keeps us from diving deeply into intimacy. Don't allow needless and excessive worrying to prevent you from sharing enjoyable intimate experiences with your partner.
In spite of this early conditioning, the innate desire for satisfying intimate relationships remains strong. It just needs to be encouraged, and it will reemerge. This book can help you get back in touch with your own essential nature and reclaim your own life force. With a little patience and practice, your sex life can be transformed from something mundane or problematic to something wonderful and fun.
