Erotic Presence
Some people need help bringing out their erotic presence, the way you radiate your erotic nature. This is not to say that you must become alluring, coy, and seductive, but rather that you become aware of your capacity for a natural eroticism. Grace, energy, and confidence allude to an erotic nature. Take the opportunity to notice what your style is and how you might develop it.
If you go dancing, try upping the ante a little. Don't worry about technique; consciously throw yourself more fully into the steps and the swing. Be the dance. Let the energy flow through you.
If you feel self-conscious about erotic presence, try dancing at home just for yourself. Choose a time and place where you have privacy. For both men and women, you might want to dress in a sarong or something a bit sexy. Find a scarf or a hat or a feathery boa you can wave around. Put on music with a good rhythm and start to move. You can dance in front of a mirror if you'd like.
Do a Body WaveStop censoring your movement — just let yourself go. Try a new move. Wave your arms around. Keep it light. Loosen your pelvis with some body waves. To do these, stand with your feet a little apart and bend your knees. Relax. As you begin the movement, stick your bottom out and then gently swing your hips forward. When you feel comfortable with this, begin to let your upper body move to the wave. Your spine will become looser and the wave will move up to your neck and head. Do this slowly and begin to smooth out the movements as you repeat it. Let your head go and include the natural action of your arms. Go with the flow.
Add a little lingerie to your lovemaking. Women can try wearing a demibra or a push-up bra, especially when they are on top. Men can keep their silk boxers or a muscle shirt on while making love. Not showing everything or hinting at what's beneath can be just as erotic as making love in the buff.
This is an excellent way to warm up for lovemaking. You may even get to the place of being able to dance for your lover. Pretend you are a temple dancer. What better erotic foreplay could you imagine?
With a little practice it will become easier for you to let yourself go. You'll begin to notice other areas in your life where you can apply this same idea. The big shift will be apparent in your lovemaking, but a sense of erotic presence will energize your whole life. Find opportunities to be graceful and confident. Notice how you might add a bit of spice to that moment — especially if your partner is around to reap the benefits.
