Tantrics and Taoists practice ejaculation control techniques that are said to allow the chi, or life force energy, to build in a man as he ages. The teachers of these practices today say that a man may have orgasms but should retain his semen, to increase his energy and sexual drive. These techniques take some practice, but in most cases, you are almost guaranteed results if you or you and your partner are willing to learn them.

It often takes just a few weeks to become proficient. You'll last a lot longer and your lover will feel the benefits, too. Within a month you should actually be able to feel the orgasmic sensations without ejaculation and the loss of fluid. You'll feel much more energized and sexually alive instead of depleted after sex. (Specific techniques for holding your sexual charge longer are covered in Chapter 14.)

Now that you are aware of the basic structure of the orgasmic response cycle, you can visualize what is possible. Keep this in mind when you need a little help in self-control. Very soon your body will know the difference and your leap of faith will be rewarded.

As you advance in these practices, you'll begin to notice that you are actually getting so close to the edge that you are experiencing orgasmic sensations over and over. Waves of orgasms and energy can flood your body. As you begin to have multiple orgasms, you'll notice that your penis will be anywhere from very hard to firmly soft. You can go on and on without the refractory period.