Enhancing the Female Orgasm

There are several ways in which women can enhance their orgasms, whether they're clitoral, vaginal, or G-spot orgasms.

The clitoral orgasm is arguably the easiest to achieve. As a woman becomes more stimulated and turned on, the shaft and crura of the clitoris become engorged with blood. As this happens, the shaft straightens out and becomes erect, much like a penis.

In the process, the head of the clitoris actually becomes more buried under the clitoral hood. This can become a problem if the woman maintains a body pose that tightens and curls inward as she becomes more turned on. The clitoris tends to get further buried. Learn to relax your body and even arch your back, slightly, if you feel this might be the case.

Some women have learned to facilitate access to the clitoral tip by pulling back the clitoral hood. Usually this will happen after a woman is somewhat turned on already. As she needs more stimulation, she will help expose her clitoral tip, either during oral sex or with finger stimulation.

The Clock Exercise

The clock exercise is a very important exercise that is rarely taught. Try it by yourself or with a partner.

Lie on your bed with your partner at your side. On your back, spread your legs open wide and relax. Take in a few deeply relaxing breaths. Now, as your partner watches, take your index finger, with a lot of lubrication on it, and feel your clitoris gently on all four sides. Now, notice if one area or side feels more excitable than another.

You'll be interested to know that on most women, if you use the analogy of a clock, the 10:00 or 2:00 positions on their clitoris are by far the most sensitive. Most women don't know this. It's such a tiny area that most women think that the nerve bundle covers the whole thing. Not true. You will most likely be much more sensitive at one of these points than the other.

In a 2009 Redbook survey, 51 percent of the female respondents said they reach an orgasm always or almost always during sex with their partner. Also, 35 percent said they never fake orgasms. Of those who do, 60 percent said they do it to spare their partner's feelings, while about a third said they do it in order to wrap up the sexual encounter.

When you have found which part of the clitoris is most sensitive for you, have your partner touch you softly so that you can guide him to the exact spot. As you move into oral sex, make sure you are in a position that actually focuses on this area. After you have tried the exercise and explored the sensitive areas of your clitoris, take note when you are making love to determine if you are getting the most direct stimulation you can.

G-spot Clues

Women can also achieve orgasm through stimulation of the G-spot. The more you explore the G-spot and focus on it as part of your sexual experience, the more alive and responsive it will become.

At first, some women will experience burning sensations, the urge to urinate, mild pain, or possible numbness. Some women will feel like laughing or crying, or they'll feel waves of emotion. Some will experience sexual pleasure immediately.

If you don't experience pleasure right away, take the view that you have at least taken a step on the path to ecstasy. If it feels like a struggle in the beginning, take breaks, but keep exploring. With time and patience, you'll get to the pleasure you're seeking.

Be gentle with yourself the first few times. Don't make it a chore. As you become more aware of your sensitive vaginal parts, you'll begin to notice how much you can feel during intercourse. The more you can feel, the more pleasure you'll have, and the more you will take control of your orgasmic response.

Do your Kegel exercises. This can't be stressed enough. They are vitally important because they give you the ability to feel what is going on inside your body. They put you in touch with the interior of your vagina and strengthen your body's response to sexual pleasure.

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