Prostrate, or P-Spot, Massage

The prostate gland and the urethral sponge, or G-spot, are very similar in composition. The prostate pumps the semen out the urethra during ejaculation. If a man is willing and wants to try prostate massage, it is highly recommended. Not only does it feel exquisite, it adds powerfully to the orgasmic sensations and helps keep the prostate gland healthy. While it doesn't take the place of seeing the doctor regularly, a man's partner can keep tabs on the health of his prostate, especially as he ages.

Prostate massage accesses the gland directly through the anus. While some may feel a little squeamish about this, it's not as unpleasant as you might think and the pleasure your partner may derive from it will make up for any initial discomfort you may feel. That said, prostate massage may not be for everyone, so don't push your partner to try it.

Step by Step

If you plan to give a prostate massage, make sure your man is very turned on. Perform oral sex, hand techniques, or any other form of foreplay to really turn your guy on. On a scale of one to ten, he should be at a seven or eight.

Have a latex glove, finger cot, or condom easily available. Use a high-quality lubricant and be generous in the amount you use. Don't use oil; use a water-based lubricant like Astroglide.

With the glove on, spread a liberal amount of lubricant over the area. Tease and play with him a little. Remind him to relax and just enjoy the sensations. Make sure you are continuing to stimulate his penis in whatever manner he likes.

When you feel he might be ready, ask permission to enter him. Use your longest finger. Go very slowly, reminding him to breathe deep into his belly and relax his anal muscles. Notice any changes in breathing, muscle tightness, and arousal. Heighten the stimulation to the penis. Be gentle when your finger is inside him. Move slowly.

Stimulating the Gland

Once inside, reach with your palm up, and feel for the gland. It will feel like a large, soft Life Saver. The center will have a slight, soft indentation, and the round structure should feel firm but somewhat pliable. It will be about the size of a walnut.

Gently explore the sides and center while keeping the stimulation going to the penis. Ask for feedback. As he becomes more turned on, try more pressure. Like the G-spot, the prostate generally can take quite a lot of pressure. Try tapping, rubbing, ringing around the edges, and just holding pressure on the middle indentation.

When you are both finished with this exploration or if he has had an orgasm with ejaculation, don't pull your finger out fast. Ask your partner to take a few deep breaths and as you remind him to relax, slowly bring your finger out. Thank each other for his vulnerability and for your willingness to try this technique.

The first time you try this, you may not get the full erotic feel of it. Keep exploring. After the second or third time, men will really begin to enjoy this massage, but wait a few days before you try it again.

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