While it's nearly impossible to give a bad massage, there are a few things to keep in mind.

• Do start off with a warm relaxing bath and some soothing music.

• Don't be in a hurry. The whole point of a massage (of any kind) is to relax and unwind.

• Do be gentle, at least at first. If your partner prefers a firmer touch, you can use a stronger grip.

• Don't automatically assume this will be a prelude to intercourse. This may put pressure on your partner. Just enjoy the massage as a sensual and satisfying experience in itself. (Of course, if intercourse does follow, that's a nice bonus!)