Setting the stage starts with romance — the little things two people can do any time of the day or night to communicate, “I love you…. I want you…. I'm glad I'm with you…. I'm looking forward to being intimate with you.” The word romance means different things to different people. In a sense, it's whatever turns you on.

The Little Gestures

Just in case romantic little gestures don't come to you automatically, make yourself a list of some of the simple things you could do to let your lover know you find him attractive or to make life a little nicer for that person. Smile when your partner comes into the room. Listen to his stories. Make the bed in the morning. Do the things that are out of the ordinary for you. Open the door for your partner. Cook a meal or do the laundry without being asked. Take the dog for a walk, mow the lawn, or clean the garage. It is amazing how much benefit comes from these actions.

Romantic Moments

Create romantic moments as you move through your day together. Americans don't display public affection nearly as much as many other cultures do, but there are things that are certainly appropriate even in our culture. Take hold of the hand next to yours when you are walking. Kiss in public. Play childlike romantic games during the day with each other — play footsies under the table or cover your lover's eyes with your hands while sitting down for a meal.

The Great Getaway

Get away to another world. Go for a mini-holiday to a local hideaway. Take all the things you think you might need for a complete getaway that heals and nourishes your bodies and spirits. This might mean going out into nature, or it may be a weekend in the big city. Whatever you choose, you will both remember it for a long time if you pack the few things that will help the memories last.