Arranging for Worry-Free Time
It's very important to have the peace of mind required for an erotic evening. What keeps men and women distracted are the regular old things that consume our everyday life — work, deadlines, laundry, company coming, kids, and almost anything else that worries us.
Clear the space as best you can, and then don't worry about what you're not doing. All of that stuff will eventually get done, whether you worry about it or not. The difference will be that you will be much more relaxed and happy. You may even find that when you give yourselves pleasurable evenings to remember, you are more resilient in handling the stresses of your daily lives.
Something as simple as moving to another part of your house can often provide enough of a change to make things exciting. You might be surprised at the different sensations you feel just by lying on or against walls, counters, or furniture outside of your bedroom. (On the downside, you may never look at your rec room the same way again!)
If you have children, try to find friends or relatives to take them for an evening and overnight, if possible. Explore trading this gift with another couple by having each other's children overnight. As time passes and your children get older, you'll get better at carving out time for you and your partner. They'll understand that the two of you want time together and that you need your privacy. In the meantime, set up situations that eliminate the worry and distraction that can occur in a busy household.