The G-Spot (or Goddess Spot)
It is widely believed that women have at least two vaginal areas that will respond to sexual arousal. One is located toward the back of the vaginal canal and closer to the cervix (the opening to the uterus). The other is the G-spot, an area located on the upper anterior wall of the vagina, about 1 to 1½ inches in, past the opening of the vagina and just behind the pubic bone. The G-spot lies between the two roots of the clitoris, which are buried under the skin and beneath the pubic bone. It consists of spongy material that is analogous to the prostate gland in men.
The G-Spot.
Let's learn how to access your G-spot and what to expect when you do. By awakening the G-spot, you will have access to a whole new realm of orgasmic potential. Some women will find this exploration easy; for others, it will be a little more challenging. All sorts of emotional reactions — including uncontrollable laughter — can occur when the spot is stimulated. Be prepared for anything!
Where did the term G-spot come from?
It's named after Ernst Grafenberg, the scientist who identified this sensitive area. In recent years, the G-spot has also been lovingly called the Goddess spot. Almost every woman has this spot or area, and most will be able to find it with a little training.
The benefits of awakening the G-spot will really show up during sexual intercourse. With a little practice you'll begin to recognize exactly where your G-spot is while in coitus, and that will enable you to subtly position yourself for just the right contact. Your G-spot awareness will be heightened, and you'll begin to notice it when you do your Kegel exercises and when you're making love. That will help you to empower your own orgasmic potential.
Exploration of a Partner's G-Spot
This section is written with the assumption that you and your partner will be doing this exploration together. The instructions are directed toward the man, unless otherwise indicated.
When you are preparing for this intimate exploration, you should both be relaxed. Take a bath or shower to help you get into a calm mood. Music, soft lighting, and a massage, if possible, can really help. Spend some time on a little foreplay. Get turned on. The woman may even want to have a clitoral orgasm. This will increase blood flow to the vulva and vagina and, as a consequence, to the G-spot.
Partners, here is where your role begins. Once you're both ready, use your middle finger to explore the G-spot, which is located less than two inches into the vagina just behind the pubic bone, on the top part of the woman's body. It helps if your finger is lubricated.
It's important to move slowly. As your finger enters the vagina, you'll feel the softness and then an area marked by its ridges. If you move your finger around, you'll notice that there really isn't any other area quite like the ridge area. Come back to that spot and proceed a tiny bit farther, just behind it to an indented space that is directly behind the pubic bone.
If you have been doing your Kegel exercises, your vaginal walls will have become tighter and the internal muscles will be stronger. This – and the increased sensitivity of that area will probably help you get in touch with your G-spot more easily. You've been stimulating it during the practice!
Apply very firm pressure. Your finger should be in a “hooked” or “come hither” position. Ask your partner what she is feeling. She may already be giving you some indications of sensations. Try slowly moving your finger in the “come hither” motion. Now try slowly sweeping your finger in a windshield washer motion. Is that different? Better? What does your partner like best? You may be amazed how much pressure this area can take. Don't be afraid to try applying more of it.
It is very important at these beginning stages to ask how your lover is doing. Encourage her to be clear with you about what she likes and doesn't like. If this is new territory for her, she is going to appreciate the questions and feel more confident about being able to guide you. She is discovering new things about her body, and if you can both stay open, connected, and in communication, you will both gain not just information, but a whole lot of pleasure.
Most men feel very empowered and successful as lovers when they help their partner discover her G-spot. While you shouldn't let this go to your head, do acknowledge yourself for being willing to help your lover know more about her body and expanding her pleasure potential.
What the Woman Can Expect
Many reactions can come up at this point during the joint G-spot exploration process. The woman may feel the urge to pee, she may feel a slight burning, she may feel pleasure, or she may feel a combination of any of these sensations. She may feel apprehensive, frightened, or even elated. She may laugh, cry, or cringe in perceived pain. Remember, this is a sensitive area!
Solo Exploration
If you are exploring this area by yourself, much of the same information applies. You should find a position that enables you to comfortably put your middle finger into your vagina and have enough latitude to move around some. Good positions for this are on your knees and sitting down a bit on your calves and on all fours with one hand free to explore. These positions bring your uterus down a bit and provide a better angle for your hand to have proper access.
Advanced PracticeThe more you practice the finger methods, the more in touch you are going to be with your vagina and your G-spot. You are in the process of awakening a sleeping beauty! As this happens, see if you notice any changes in your awareness of your G-spot during intercourse. If you're doing your Kegel exercises daily, you should notice even more sensations.
In order to feel your G-spot better during intercourse, have your partner thrust slowly and shallowly at least half of the time. This will cause the head of the penis to rub the G-spot more frequently and produce more friction. Try various thrusting patterns like the following: nine shallow, one deep; eight shallow, two deep; seven shallow, three deep; and so forth.
Certain positions greatly benefit the stimulation of the G-spot. The “woman on top” and “rear-entry” positions are great for G-spot gratification.
And, finally, you are encouraged to make sounds. Practice making sounds that resonate from deep within your belly. You can do this while you are by yourself and then introduce it into your lovemaking later. Open your mouth and make low-register moans that don't come from your throat but from your abdomen. These kinds of sounds can bring on multiple G-spot orgasms.
