Erotic Massage

Massage is a practice that has been perfected over thousands of years. It is used for stress reduction, relaxation, erotic touch, musculature health, lymphatic health, emotional release, body rebalancing, and much more.

When we daydream of the perfect sensual experience with a lover, it often includes massage. Nothing can get a couple more relaxed, in the moment, and focused than warm oil and tender hands. Massage is a wonderful way to begin a sexual experience. It gets our bodies and our minds in tune for what comes next.

One of the basic things to keep in mind when giving a massage is to prepare ahead. Where will you give the massage — on the bed, on a massage table, or possibly in front of the fire? When you decide, make sure you have a large-enough towel or an old sheet. You don't want to use oil on or near anything new or valuable.

Warm the massage oil slightly. Get your music selection ready. Warm the room ahead of time. If you are prepared, your participant will feel even more honored to receive this gift.

Begin Massaging Your Lover's Body

When you are ready, have your lover lie down on his stomach. Invite him to relax and receive your love and energy. Ask if there is anything he needs before you begin.

To start, rub your hands together vigorously for a couple of minutes to get them warm and energized. Tenderly place them on your partner's back and let them just lie there for a few minutes as you connect.

Lightly move your hands in slow, smooth motions over your lover's body. Feel your fingers and palms. Do they feel good? Make whatever adjustments you need to make so that you, the giver, feel comfortable and relaxed, and so that your hands are receiving pleasure as well as giving it. Feel the soft hair on your lover's body. Feel the lines and contour of his calves, thighs, buttocks, waist, back, neck, and arms.

Oil Massage

Apply some warm oil or massage lotion to your hands and begin with the feet. At this point you can use firmer pressure, but remember that sensual massages aren't therapeutic in nature! You are eroticizing the flesh, not pounding it.

Massage the balls of the feet along with the instep, heel, and ankle. Go between the toes and on top of the arch. Send love through your hands to heal and nurture. Move up the leg and spend a little time on the calves, behind the knees, and on the thighs. It's best to work on one side and then the other.

Try not to make your partner flinch during a massage. Experiment with the depth and pressure of the touch you give. Start with a lighter touch and move into deeper pressure later. Stay sensitive to your partner's response and adjust accordingly.

Move to the torso and gently knead the buns. As you apply new oil, try leaving one hand on your partner and pouring a little oil over the hand that is still on the body. This serves two purposes; it keeps your partner from being shocked by the oil and it keeps you and your lover connected. Your lover won't feel like you've gone away, even for a minute. Try moving your hands in unison over his bottom. Go in circles, first one way and then the other way. This is relaxing and energizing all at the same time. Ask how he likes it best — whether he wants your touch to be deeper or lighter.

Moving On

As you move up the torso, you can use more oil. Slowly work up the spine, but never touch it directly. The muscles on either side of the spine support and protect the vertebrae and the rib attachment points. See if you can feel every one of them as you move slowly up the back. You'll find that using your thumbs will work well. As you continue the massage, make sure that your fingers and hands are doing fine and aren't tired or uncomfortable. Remember, this experience should be pleasant for both you and your lover.

Move to the outer area of the back and run your hands up the sides of the body, from the waist to the armpits. Use a long, firm stroke so you don't tickle. Keep your attention focused on the sensations in your hands. There are lots of nerve endings in this region and it can be a major erogenous zone for many people. Spend some time on the shoulders and scapula.

As you work these areas, you can move a little closer and tease your partner with a little verbal foreplay. Tell him how much you're enjoying this moment or anything that comes to mind. Or just plant a simple kiss on the back of his neck.

Finish the sides by massaging each arm and the hands. Our hands serve us well and they get cramped and tired. You can kiss them and knead them lovingly and even speak to them and thank them for all the service they perform. Experiment using both hands to work up and down the arm, or hold the hand firmly with one of your hands and massage up the arm with your other hand. This allows for gentle pulling and stretching of the arm.

Face Up

Gently role your partner over and connect with your eyes for a few moments. Though you can do his feet again, you may want to begin with the front of his legs and thighs. Try moving your hands out from the middle, at the knee, up with one hand to the thigh and down with the other hand toward the toes. You can also stand at his feet and move both of your hands up each leg in unison.

If the massager is a woman, she can use her breasts in the massage. As she reaches toward her lover's inner thigh, her breasts can grace his feet. The breasts are the representation of the heart and can be used to send her love.

The inner thighs are highly erotic areas that generally respond immediately to soft, conscious touch. Notice your partner's breath as you approach this area. Did he make a satisfied sigh? Did he moan?

You may want to encourage your partner to open his legs a little now. The muscle structure of the inner thighs is sensitive, so use a soft stroke. Lightly play with his pubic hair and really feel the soft hair on his thighs. Hair is highly erotic, and the more softly you can touch it the better it will feel. Gently brush over his genitals, just teasing a little, and move to the front of the torso.

Add more oil and massage the belly and abdomen with the palms of your hands. Be firm but sensitive, especially if your partner has eaten in the last few hours. Then move on to the chest area.

As you move up the body, start in the center, move up between the breasts, and stroke to the outside and around the breasts. Include the upper chest and come down around the outside of the breasts and back down. Start the move again. This is a particularly good massage move to open the heart area. Do it a few times with your attention focused on love. You may even want to speak loving words to your partner.

Now, focus some attention on the breasts. Women generally love having their breasts massaged upward and on the outsides, under their arms. Use circle strokes, first one way, six times, and then the other. Massage the areola and nipples gently. Men's breasts can be highly sensitive, too. Focus some attention on them to develop their erotic potential even more.

Finish the main body massage by standing at your partner's head and massaging his shoulders and arms from this position. Knead the muscles in the shoulders and stretch your body over your partner's, using both of your arms to massage down his arms to his hands. Women, as you bend with this move, let your breasts lightly brush your partner's face. Repeat this stroke several times.

A Facial Massage

At the end, you may want to do a facial massage. With a small towel, wipe the excess oil off your hands. Look into your lover's eyes for a moment and acknowledge him. Place your hands as gently as possible on his face, cupping his face in your hands. Stroke his skin as lovingly as you possibly can. Softly pass by his eyelids, lips, forehead, and hair. Caress his cheeks and temples. Do it as if you were worshiping him. (You can also add a sexual massage.)

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