Changing positions, learning correct breathing, and controlling ejaculation will certainly help you enhance your orgasms as well as your lover's. But one often-overlooked and yet obvious point that needs to be made is that in order to fully enjoy yourself, you need to know what pleasures you. Take as many opportunities as possible to learn about your hot spots. What gets you juicy or aroused? Do words turn you on? How about teasing or seduction? Erotic dances from your lover? Small gifts? Tenderness?

Explore your body and how it prefers to be touched. Do you prefer soft caresses or to be squeezed and hugged? Do you prefer to be touched all over, or do you have specific areas that most desire touch? Do you like a single stimulation point, or can you handle two, three, or more? Do you like your nipples squeezed or your whole breast fondled with just a hint of nipple? Do you like your scrotum to be pulled firmly or cupped gently?

A person's preferences usually change from moment to moment. We'll like one thing this time and something else the next. But most of us find that we also have our favorite spots and secret desires when it comes to touch. The problem is, we keep them secret. Let your lover know what you like; but first, discover it for yourself. You won't be able to tell what you don't know.

Our genitals are most sensitive to touch, but there are other erogenous areas you may want to explore. Try combining one or two of these additional areas with genital stimulation. Vary the touch you give by using your fingertips, tickling, blowing, lightly scratching, or just holding the area. Learning to receive multiple types of touch will create more possibilities for orgasmic pleasure.