The Missionary Position

The missionary position is probably one of the most widely used positions during sex. In this position, the woman lies on her back with her legs bent and her knees pointing up with her feet on the bed. Her partner lies on top of her, generally with his knees on the bed or other surface. The man supports himself with his arms, and the woman's hips support his hips.

The man does the thrusting and most of the movement in this position. It's a somewhat difficult position for the woman to move freely, especially if the man is larger than she is and leans on her during lovemaking.

Basic variations of the missionary position include having the woman wrap her legs over the ankles, thighs, or buttocks of her partner. She can even move them up to his waist and back. These variations sometimes happen spontaneously as the woman get more excited and turned on. The natural reaction is to move closer to create more contact as the lovemaking progresses.

These positions can stimulate the G-spot and the interior vaginal spots that women identify as pleasure producing. They are also great for eye contact, whispers, loving words, and kissing; and the partners can put their arms around each other. Traditional thrusting, however, doesn't do much for most women because there's no clitoral stimulation.

The missionary position is perhaps the most widely used sexual position.

The Coital Alignment Technique

Also known as CAT, the coital alignment technique is a modified frontal position that improves the woman's stimulation. The CAT is similar to the missionary position, except that the man rises up and moves about four inches forward (up her body). In this position, he can use a combination of small thrusts and rubbing his body up and down to get the woman more excited.

The rubbing action, which both partners can do in rhythm with each other, rubs the man's pubic bone on the woman's pubic bone and clitoral hood. This friction adds enough contact with the clitoris to have her reach orgasm in the act of intercourse. Generally, the CAT position has partners very close, with arms around each other, so that they can create the traction to get the up-and-down rhythm going. It's this back-and-forth friction that excites the woman and may make the man last longer, too.

The Yawning Position

Vulnerable and erotic, this position could become one of your favorites. The woman lies on her back and places her legs up and over the shoulders of her partner, who is on top of her. The legs can rest on his shoulders with very little strain to the man. She should not use much of a pillow, if any, under her buttocks, as this will limit her mobility.

The yawning position lets the woman rest her legs on the man's shoulders.

With the man on top, you can go from the missionary position to the yawning position very easily. Thrusting should begin gently, as this is a vulnerable position for some women. With her legs on his shoulders, she will have the leverage to lift her pelvis easily and affect the angle of penetration.

Most women eventually begin to have orgasms at some point in their lives, but not necessarily every time they have intercourse. More women experience clitoral orgasms as opposed to vaginal or G-spot orgasms.

One of the benefits of this position is that the woman can easily rotate her hips for maximum contact to her G-spot. The rotating also stimulates the man and they can both control the movement and the thrusting easily and freely. In this posture the hands are free to stimulate other erogenous zones. The man can use his hands and fingers on the clitoris, breasts, face or any other area on the woman's body where he knows her pleasure will be enhanced. The woman's hands are free to caress her partner's face, back, neck, thighs, legs, and scrotum.

She can assist him in having an orgasm but not ejaculating in this position because she can read his energy easily. She is able to move, do her Kegels to grip him firmly, or lie still so he won't orgasm too soon. Lying still, in a heightened state of arousal, with the woman squeezing her PC muscles in this position is pure ecstasy. This is a good way to let the man come back to a more stable state if he is feeling that he might be getting close to ejaculating. Lie still and, if appropriate, pump your PC muscles slowly and keep him just at the edge of excitement.

A variation on this position calls for the woman to straighten her legs and firmly push the backs of her legs away from the man, so that her feet move closer to her head. In doing so she puts a greater angle on her pelvis, and consequently the man's penis accesses the G-spot better. She is more in control of the thrusting in this variation and can control the deep versus shallow thrusts and the speed of the thrusting. This is a little more difficult for some women, but try it before you decide that it's not for you. The more of an angle you are able to put on the vagina and penis, the more pressure will be applied, causing greater pleasure.

Splitting a Bamboo Position

Sir Richard Burton's translation of the Kama Sutra includes the following passage: “When the woman places one of her legs on her lover's shoulder, and stretches the other out, and then places the latter on his shoulder, and stretches the other out, it is called the splitting of a bamboo.”

In this position, the woman lies on her back and can be propped up by pillows placed at her back. Her partner squats, kneels, or sits on his feet with a slightly forward tilt. The woman has one leg bent with her foot on the floor or bed. The other leg is on the man's shoulder, with the ankle hooked on it or straight up in the air and held by her partner's hand. At the couple's own pace, the legs are then placed in the opposite position. As in the Kama Sutra description, the legs are at one moment split one way and then the other way.

This is a wonderful position for making the subtle shifts that are often required for effective G-spot stimulation. The woman can grind and rotate her hips or undulate and use her PC muscles to create greater pleasure for both herself and her partner. The up-and-down motion of the legs creates an arc that rubs, like the motion of a windshield wiper, back and forth across the G-spot area. This position is more advanced than others, but give it a try. You may surprise yourself.

The “splitting the bamboo” sex position.

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