About now, you're beginning to feel used to this pregnancy thing. You probably have your new, slightly larger wardrobe hanging in the closet and have gotten over the fact that you won't wear your favorite jeans again until sometime next year. You may experience some swelling in your legs, feet, or hands. Try to elevate your feet when you can; sleeping on your side with a pillow between your knees may become your new favorite sleeping position from now until delivery.
A Growing Person
This month, baby is becoming more of a person than ever, with eyes that open and close, ears that hear, and the ability to suck its thumb. This, of course, leads to hiccups, which you'll notice mostly by the rapid, repetitive movements you feel in your lower abdomen. At the end of this month, your precious cargo may be one and a half pounds and measure up to thirteen inches in length.
Your journal entry may be longer this month as well, since you'll want to write about:
What you were feeling this month
Funny dreams you had this month
New foods you ate
Fun things you and baby did together this month
What the doctor said at this month's checkup — and what the ultrasound showed
Moms in Dreamland
The baby was born, and as I held it in my arms, it began speaking to me.
I went to the doctor, and he told me that I wasn't really pregnant … that it was really just the flu.
The baby's head was coming out, and in this otherwise beautiful moment, I looked down in horror to see that it was not a baby at all, but a monster.
Watch out for stretch marks, which can begin to appear this month. As soon as you start seeing them, apply some cocoa butter or stretch mark cream (available at most drugstores) twice daily to avoid major wrinkles as your tummy expands. If you apply regularly, your skin should be able to retain its elasticity without any worries!
Are these experiences real? Of course not. Do they seem real to the pregnant woman who is dreaming them? You bet. Many an expectant mother has awakened in a cold sweat, shaking with fear and wondering just what made her dream such awful or strange things.
Strange, or even disturbing, dreams are not uncommon during pregnancy. In fact, nearly every mother will tell you she has had at least one dream that made her worry. Some tell their partners; others tell their doctors; but the response is likely to be the same: “Don't worry about it. It was only a dream.” These words are easily said, but anxious mothers-to-be do not so easily heed them.
So, what do these dreams mean? Should they be totally ignored, or do they really have meaning? Actually, they do have a meaning, and it's usually tied to your fears or anxieties about the baby's welfare or your own ability to be a good mother. Mind you, this does not mean that you are a sick, paranoid individual or that you really aren't cut out for the mothering thing. What it does mean is that you may have some underlying fears or doubts about motherhood; the dreams may be nature's way of encouraging you to give these worries a little more thought.
What can you do to overcome any fears you are having?
Talk to other mothers and ask them to share their experiences with you. You might be surprised to find that they, too, worried about whether they might make good mothers. If you don't know any other moms to talk with (or that you feel comfortable enough to talk with), talk with your husband or obstetrician about your dreams. Getting to the heart of your fears as early as possible will help you conquer pregnancy nightmares and leave you feeling better about the new role you are about to take on.