Helping Before Baby
What does the mother of your child need most, and how can you anticipate those needs? There are actually lots of ways you can help — so many that it might at first glance seem overwhelming. Fortunately, there's still time to slow down and take things one trimester at a time.
First Trimester (Months One to Three)
In these first few months of pregnancy, your wife will need your emotional support as she adjusts to this exciting (yet sometimes frightening) time in her life. If she's having morning sickness, reassure her that this is only a temporary phase. If she's tired all the time, take on extra household duties and make sure she gets enough rest. What she really needs most of all is knowing that you are there for her, that you support her and love her for this beautiful, temporary sacrifice her body is making. Take an active role in reading about the baby's development, too. Go to those early doctor's appointments so that you can hear firsthand information.
Second Trimester (Months Four to Six)
As her body changes and the baby grows, a woman needs to know she is still attractive to you. Tell her how she looks: She's not fat — she's pregnant; she's got a healthier glow than you've ever seen before. Let her know you're proud of her and the baby. Be with her as much as you can, and enjoy the time you have left — it'll be a long time before you're “empty-nesters” again!
Third Trimester (Months Seven to Nine)
Mom-to-be may be a little uncomfortable — not to mention emotional — these last months of the pregnancy. Try to get her out of the house; go to dinner, a movie, or even for a short walk. You'll have to ask her what other things she'd like you to do, but she'll likely want to decorate the baby's room and stock it full of things for you to put together (you'll be very thankful for those handy instructions!). And — no doubt — good, strong back rubs are in order. Of course, if you're the labor coach, you'll have lots of other items of business to attend to during that last month, like creating a phone list, finishing up the baby's room, and packing the car for the big day!