After Baby Arrives
After the birth of your baby, believe it or not, you'll be needed even more. You can help your new family by calling everyone who needs to know about the birth (this includes shielding Mom from well-meaning folks who want to chat when she needs to rest); limiting visitors (they can make Mommy and baby very tired in the first few days); and doing housework and cooking for your family. Just knowing that you are there for her and willing to help at every stage is going to go a long way in terms of adjustment and the well-being of your new family.
Offer Breastfeeding Support
Some dads feel a bit left out when the mom gets extra bonding time with baby at breastfeeding time. If you feel like a third wheel, participate by holding baby's hand or even softly singing to baby. Sometimes just being in close proximity will help you feel just as important to baby — and your closeness is sure to be appreciated by Mom, too!
“C” Can Mean Extra Care
If the new mom has had a C-section, your help will be even more critical during the first six weeks home. Since most doctors won't let recovering moms drive or lift anything for four to six weeks, you may need to do everything from grocery shopping to cooking and housekeeping — all while maintaining your regular work schedule.
Alert
If the new mom has bouts of the “baby blues,” you needn't worry — these low times are brought on by hormonal changes and are normal. But if she seems to grow more depressed over the next few weeks, she may have postpartum depression. Look for the signs, and don't be afraid to call the doctor if you're worried or unsure.
Ask Before Getting Help
You can keep stress to a minimum by allowing others in your circle of friends and family to help — after you get an okay from your wife or partner. Make sure she feels comfortable with others helping during those emotional first weeks home. Suddenly turning everything over to her least-favorite (but well-intentioned) Aunt Martha when she's on bed rest could be a very bad idea.
