Using the Conditional Tense to Be Polite

With certain verbs, the conditional tense lends the statement a very polite tone. As a result, these verbs are often used in the conditional, especially when making requests. It is considered more formal and less demanding.

You will often encounter the verbs aimer, pouvoir, and vouloir used in the conditional tense. This is actually very similar to the English way of asking questions politely. Aimer transforms into “would like,” pouvoir into “could,” and vouloir into “would like.”

When ordering a meal in a restaurant, the exchange with your waiter will almost always occur using the conditional tense. Here is a typical conversation in a restaurant:

<tgroup cols="2"> <colspec colname="col1" colnum="1" colwidth="60%" colsep="0" rowsep="0" align="left"/> <colspec colname="col2" colnum="2" colwidth="40%" colsep="0" rowsep="0" align="left"/> <tbody> <tr> <td><p><B>Waiter:</B></p></td> <td><p><emphasis>Voudriez-vous quelque chose, madame?</emphasis></p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><para/></td> <td><p>Would you like something, Madam?</p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><p><B>Diner:</B></p></td> <td><p><emphasis>Oui. Je voudrais un filet mignon</emphasis>.</p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><para/></td> <td><p>Yes. I would like a filet mignon.</p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><p><B>Waiter:</B></p></td> <td><p><emphasis>Et qu'est-ce que vous voudriez aimeriez boire?</emphasis></p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><para/></td> <td><p>And what would you like to drink?</p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><p><B>Diner:</B></p></td> <td><p><emphasis>Du thé, s'il vous plaît</emphasis>.</p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><para/></td> <td><p>Some tea, please.</p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><p><B>Waiter:</B></p></td> <td><p><emphasis>C'est tout?</emphasis></p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><para/></td> <td><p>That's all?</p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><p><B>Diner:</B></p></td> <td><p><emphasis>Oui. Merci</emphasis>.</p></td> </tr> <tr> <td><para/></td> <td><p>Yes. Thank you.</p></td> </tr> </tbody> </tgroup> </table> <p>The waiter is being very polite, using the conditional tense in addition to referring to the diner using the formal <emphasis>vous</emphasis> form. Responding in the conditional allows you to politely order the food you desire. Phrasing such a request in the present tense indicative conjugation would be more abrupt and less polite. This level of respect is evident English, too; it's very similar to the phrase “I'll have…” you often use when ordering. 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