Finding Time for Sex
New dads often have very confused feelings and ideas about what their sex life will be like once their baby is born. Some expect that a previous active sex life will quickly resume, despite sleepless nights, long hours taking care of a new baby, and no matter how tired their partner is. Other dads are ready for some changes, but still expect that their partner will want to have sex whenever they want to.
Medically, new moms usually have to wait at least four to six weeks until they can safely have sex and perhaps longer if they had a vaginal tear or episiotomy during the baby's birth.
Although you may be a little disappointed if you don't expect some changes in your sex life when you have a new baby, it is important that you don't feel rejected until your sex life resumes. New moms are often both physically and mentally exhausted, even when dads help a lot, and sex is usually one of the last things on their minds. That doesn't mean that your partner doesn't still love you or doesn't find you attractive anymore.
Making sure that your partner knows that you love her and find her attractive can be a good way to get your sex life back. It is important to remember that getting your partner in the mood isn't necessarily going to start in the bedroom. Instead, offer plenty of romance and intimate times throughout the day so that she feels attractive, cared for, and knows you really want her. And helping out around the house so that she isn't physically exhausted definitely wouldn't hurt either.