Because having a baby represents such a huge transition in your life—not only for you and your partner, but your family and friends as well—you may feel a certain amount of stress. This stress need not be overwhelming. Your family and friends are actually a tremendous resource. Once you come to accept this (and it does take time), your relations with them may go more smoothly.

Your family and in-laws may be as loony as they come. They may be bossy and intrusive at times. They may be a royal pain in the you-know-what. But most assuredly they want to be useful and help you. Here are some jobs they can do:

• Go with your partner on a doctor's visit if you can't make it.

• Be on the lookout for good deals on baby gear and clothes.

• Help you paint the nursery or build the crib.

• Help you financially by hiring a once-a-month cleaning service or diaper service.

• Assist you with the birth (talk to your partner before you make this offer to anyone).

• Help you make phone calls to people after the baby is born.

• Cook meals ahead of time for you to stick in the freezer and eat after the baby comes.

Because they are eager to help, your family and friends will generally be happy and grateful to do the things you ask. As you will find as you get closer and closer to the due date, it is hard to sit around and wait. Having things to do will make the waiting easier for everyone.