Your daughter and the man she's planning to marry have decided to move in together before the wedding, and you're just sick over it. This isn't the way you raised her. Nice girls wait until after the wedding to set up house, and that's all there is to it.

What you're experiencing is a generation gap. Gone are the days where cohabitation before the wedding day was frowned upon; in fact, these days, it's commonplace for engaged couples to move into a home before the wedding. There are actually a lot of benefits to this setup, starting with the fact that moving in together after returning from the honeymoon can be incredibly stressful and hectic. Returning home to an actual home is a piece of cake in comparison. In addition, they'll already know what their monthly living expenses are — they won't be forced to choose between heat and food because they way underestimated the gas bill.

That's not to say that you have to like the whole situation. You do have to try to understand where your daughter is coming from, though. She's not doing this to hurt you, and she's not trying to bring shame upon the family — she's trying to make her life a little easier, and she's surrounded by hordes of couples who have done the same thing without being struck down by a lightning bolt.