Of course, for every father of the bride who cringes at the mention of the bachelor party, there's a bride who rages at the thought of the inevitable debauchery. If your daughter is one of these brides, should you really even consider going to this shindig? Wouldn't attending the spectacle only be endorsing and condoning it?

Pick a Side, Any Side

There are arguments to be made on both sides of the issue. If you go, she may actually feel better about the whole thing because she will assume that her fiancé is not stupid enough to do anything really inappropriate in your presence (she may, however, be giving him way too much of the benefit of the doubt). On the other hand, if you're looking for the perfect excuse to stay home, you have it: solidarity. It's much more important for you to side with your daughter than to join in the fray.

Oh, She's Overreacting

You had a stag; it's a time-honored tradition, a rite of passage, and nothing for her to be so upset about. Geez, what's the big deal?

While it's probably fair to say that some brides are paranoid and much too overprotective of their future husbands (the bride who freaks out if her man even looks in the direction of another female is a good example), it's also fair to say that many women feel this way because they know exactly what goes on at bachelor parties…and they don't like it. Which is a fair enough reaction, and one that many men simply don't want to validate.

If you've been trying to convince your daughter that she's all wrong on this point, ask yourself how you would feel if your son were marrying a woman whose friends were planning a party in her honor in a location filled with half-naked men and lots of booze. Doesn't seem so appropriate when the tables are turned, does it?

Even if you support your future son-in-law in this endeavor, try to understand how your daughter is feeling. She'll sense betrayal if you give her a lecture on the finer points of bachelor parties.