What It's Like to Love a Two
Twos generally look really good and go out of their way to impress you in the beginning stages of romance. Twos base their self-image on being loving and generous to a fault, which means they do their best to squelch any evidence that they have negative feelings, habits, or behaviors. Twos believe that they have to meet your needs to acquire love and will bend over backward to do whatever they think you need or want in order to keep you. They often surrender any sense of their real self to become what they think a powerful, attractive potential mate, or even a friend, wants them to be.
Even if you protest, ego-driven and pathological Twos may feel compelled to sacrifice everything for the people they love. Eventually they can feel like the objects of their affection have taken them for granted, making them feel resentful and uncharacteristically angry. Many Twos lose touch with their feelings and need their loved ones to bolster their esteem. If they can't get the emotional fulfillment they need directly, particularly as they inch toward pathology, they may become manipulative and dramatic — begging for constant attention, requiring excessive praise and flattery (even when it's not deserved), and cleaving themselves to your side.
They may want you to feel flattered that they are so willing to be whatever you want them to be, but later they can resent the sacrifices they made and want to break free from what they then perceive as your need to control them.
What you'll love about Twos:
They often know how they feel about you and express it.
They want to love you and make it the focus of their lives.
They will see your best qualities and talk about you in glowing terms.
They shower you with attention and always remember important events.
They often feel your pain and seek ways to make it better.
They will typically wait on you hand and foot.
If they have what you want, they usually gladly give it to you.
What will drive you crazy about Twos:
They often want to know where you are at all times.
They may get jealous if you even talk to someone else.
They can become whiny and get mad for little reason.
They complain constantly that you're neglecting them.
They need lots of attention, and it's never enough.
They often see themselves as flawless.
They tend to scream at you and then deny being angry.
Instead of asking for what they want, they resort to manipulation.
Once you're in a relationship with them, Twos can become martyrs who will smother you with love and then expect a dramatic display of adoration in return. If you're involved with a dysfunctional, codependent, or pathological Two, ulterior motives and unreasonable expectations commingle. Their love not only has strings attached, it has ropes attached.
Self-actualized Twos can be a dream, but those integrated, evolved Twos are usually far more interested in serving humanity than serving you. Their altruistic nature typically dominates their personality, which means they may fly off to Africa to run a school or spend the majority of their time in church activities.
