The Two Child
Two children may seem like model children — well behaved, polite, easygoing, caring, and outgoing. They usually like being around other children and get very attached to their friends. You might notice them being particularly sensitive to everyone else's feelings or needs, always wanting to make someone happy, or wanting to rescue animals and insects They are usually conscientious students who want to please both you and the teacher, and they'll generally abide by the rules.
How to nurture a Two child: Appreciate everything she does for you or others, but rather than reward her or fuss too much, encourage her to develop her own interests and to focus attention on herself. Make sure she knows that expressions of anger will not lead to rejection. Offer her lots of opportunities to make decisions and be patient until she does. To help her develop a strong sense of self, praise her when she does something well.
Some behavioral problems that may indicate possible danger ahead when it comes to raising Two children:
If anyone criticizes them, they may blow it out of proportion and take it as personal rejection.
They are so convinced they have to be good children that they may repress any feelings of anger, sadness, or frustration.
They may feel more anxious than they reveal and have sleeping or eating problems.
They may feel like they're the boss and order everyone around.
They may get so used to fading into the background that they get confused about their own likes, dislikes, wants, or needs.
They may want so desperately to be popular that they feel like they have to do what everybody else is doing to fit in.
Two children are usually highly sensitive, caring children who see a need in their primary family environment that they attempt to fill. They empower themselves by seeing themselves as intrinsic to the well-being of those they love, and their identity gets locked into being the ultimate people pleaser: someone who is willing to sacrifice her own needs for the sake of others. Two children tend to base their whole image of themselves on how well they can serve others and often need help refocusing their energy on themselves so that they develop an integrated sense of self based on who they are, what they need, and what they want for themselves.
