The Nine Child
Next to Seven children, Nine children often appear to be the happiest, or at least the most content, children on the planet. When it comes to sunny dispositions, they are right up there. They are typically very easygoing, pleasant children who prefer peaceful, quiet, orderly, harmonious family life when everyone gets along and no one gets angry or upset. Nine children find it difficult to say anything that they think will make someone unhappy, so they sometimes say things they don't really feel or think just to keep that sacred peace. Eventually, they lose bits and pieces of themselves and may have difficulty forming a solid image of who they are. If they never express anger or frustration, they may reach a breaking point when it all spills out unexpectedly and explosively. Nine children can become so passive and low energy they move slowly through life as if weights were attached to their feet.
How to nurture a Nine child: Keep the focus on him — what he wants to do, what he likes, and what he feels — and let him know he is important and that what he wants or needs is important. Teach him how to express disappointment, hurt, or anger constructively before it reaches a critical level. Let him be in the limelight more often. Make sure he doesn't hide in corners and speaks up for himself when it's needed, and let him know he can say whatever he wants and you won't stop loving him.
Some behavioral problems that may indicate possible danger ahead when it comes to raising Nine children:
They show little initiative and little interest in stimulating activities.
They have trouble making even simple decisions.
They can be extremely stubborn and resistant to new ideas.
They look sad or upset yet keep a smile plastered on their face.
They prefer to sit back and watch what happens rather than actively participate.
Nine children may need help narrowing down choices or clarifying what they want or need. While they are, in fact, sweet, you may want to encourage them to add a little spice to their personality.
