Alpha Is a State of Mind
Every team needs a captain. Did you ever notice how the captains of sports teams aren't necessarily the biggest or physically strongest members of the teams? They may not even be the best players. They usually do share at least one common trait, though. That trait is leadership ability. They're also likely to be calm, confident, and assertive.
You Too Can Be a Good Leader
If you're not a natural team captain, don't panic. You just have to fake it until you make it. Behave your way to success and act like a good leader. Acting like a good leader means that you set standards, and expect and insist that they are met. It means remaining calm and taking charge of situations that might cause your dog to misbehave or panic. If you get frustrated and hysterical in response to your dog's hysteria or out-of-control behavior, no one is in control, and the leadership position is up for grabs. If this happens repeatedly, your dog may decide that you're not worthy of the leadership spot.
Control your breathing! If you hold your breath in stressful situations (and most people do), you hold on to tension, which telegraphs directly to your dog. Consciously force yourself to take regular, even breaths; you and your dog will both feel better!
Don't Forget to Breathe!
You may need to force yourself to take a deep breath (don't forget to let it out!) and tell yourself “I am in control of this situation,” but your calm, confident energy will instill your dog with confidence and trust. With a little practice, not only will your dog believe you're the leader, but also you might even start believing it yourself!
