Delayed Honeymoons

You might figure that you've already spent a week before the wedding having the time of your life: soaking up the sun, checking out the sights, and hanging out with your friends. Maybe you feel as though you don't need another week to do more of the same. Some couples choose to delay their honeymoons, and they do so for several reasons.

Distinct Vacations

Your destination wedding can definitely take on the feeling of a big family vacation, which is fine — if you didn't want all of your loved ones with you, you wouldn't have invited them — but it may not be the ideal setup for the honeymoon of your dreams. A honeymoon planned for several months after the wedding (and in a different location altogether) has its own feel. It will be just the two of you from start to finish, and you can concentrate on the vacation itself without throwing a wedding into the mix. A lot of couples also don't like the idea of using most of their yearly vacation time in one fell swoop. Delaying the honeymoon for several months — or even a year — allows you to have two shorter vacations instead of one.

No Time Like the Future

Some couples are just not able to take two solid weeks off from work, even if it is for the best possible reason. And even if they're able to take the time off, they just may not be born vacationers. You know the type: After a week away from the office or from their business, they start to get nervous. The phone calls to the office start. Pretty soon, they're searching high and low for Internet access so that they can check their e-mail.

We're not going to get into a discussion of whether this is right or wrong; this is just the way some people are, and there's little anyone can do to change them. Obviously, these men and women make great businesspeople and are usually wonderful providers for their families; however, they can be tough to vacation with. You know whether you're marrying a man who fits this description; you also know whether this description sounds a lot like someone else you know very well (that would be you). If a later, separate, shorter honeymoon is going to make both of you happy in the long run, then don't try to force in an extra week of fun now.

Regrouping the Finances

Finances are another reason some couples end up delaying the honeymoon. It can be awfully expensive to pay for a wedding; rather than go into immediate newlywed debt, these couples would rather go home, recharge their savings account, and plan a honeymoon that they know they can comfortably afford.

E~ssential

You only get to honeymoon once, so you might as well enjoy yourself, eat the things you want to eat, buy (most) of the things you want to buy. Giving yourselves time to save up and pay for the entire thing up-front is a wise way to go — much wiser than paying off the interest on this trip for years to come.

Vacationing while worrying about debt isn't fun. If you know that spending two solid weeks somewhere will only elicit thoughts such as, “We shouldn't eat much today. We've spent way too much money already,” then you might be a prime candidate for scheduling a separate honeymoon with its own expense account.

Dream Registries

These days, you can register for just about anything — lawn mowers, furniture, appliances — and yes, even your honeymoon. Honeymoon registries allow your friends and family to contribute to your dream vacation. When you take that trip is up to you.

Registering for a honeymoon is an excellent idea for the couple who has already established a home and therefore doesn't need anything in the way of housewares or wedding gifts. Find a good travel agent to help you plan your ideal honeymoon; he or she can set up an online account so that your friends and family can donate to your fund easily.

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