Some Final Thoughts on Sexuality
Humans are all sexual beings, but sexuality is a complex concept. People are genetically programmed, biologically equipped, mentally conditioned, and emotionally engaged to present ourselves to the best advantage for one purpose — to ensure the continuation of the species. It's a heavy responsibility, but the performance of the duty can be among the most pleasurable experiences that life has to offer.
Use It or Lose It
When physical or mental illness impacts the ability to participate in sex, it's no wonder people become irritable. As you've read, however, getting back on track mentally means using your body the way nature intended. While the advice, “use it or lose it” may not have been coined to deal with depression, it certainly works here and has the added benefit of keeping your relationship healthy.
Eye of the Beholder
People do well when they are with others who share their interests and passions. People do even better when they find partners who will accept them as they are and for who they are. Some of the happiest couples will never win any kind of beauty contest. You've got to go back to those old, timeworn and time-tested adages: “Beauty is only skin deep.” It's what's inside that matters. And if that inside is compassionate and understanding of a partner who is going through some tough times, that's the relationship that will stand the test of time.
Looking for a 50/50 relationship? You'll look a long time — perhaps forever. Look instead for one in which the two of you can take turns carrying the load. Maybe that will look like 60/40 or 70/30, but how do you measure love? And the truth of it is, if you're really in love, you don't keep score.