Are you responsible for having depression? Of course not. Are you responsible for doing everything you can to work your way through this condition? Yes, you are. And why wouldn't you want to be? Accepting responsibility is not the same thing as taking the blame. Responsibility means you understand your role in managing your health and seeking positive avenues for optimizing your recovery.
When you're feeling confused about what you can and cannot do, remember the Serenity Prayer. Pastor Reinhold Niebuhr is the author of this famous prayer. “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” Serenity, courage, and wisdom are powerful, positive attributes to cultivate in your daily life to fight depression.
So, what exactly does accepting responsibility mean? It means that:
You understand that while you cannot control your medical condition, you do understand that you can choose how you will deal with it.
You will make good health choices — eat well and exercise — because you know this will help you.
You let go of the “Life isn't fair” script and realize that all people have something on their plate that they'd rather not have.
You find positive and appropriate outlets for your frustration and anger.
You truly believe that while pain and suffering are certainties, misery is optional.