Everything you've been dealing with to help your defiant child has no doubt been stressful for you. Your feelings have probably ranged all over the emotional spectrum, from frustration to anger to sadness to worry. Such feelings take a toll. In order to parent effectively, you need to have some “juice” left in your batteries, and that means getting help and support for yourself. Taking time to recharge doesn't mean you are ditching your responsibilities and taking a break doesn't mean you're off gallivanting irresponsibly; self-care is essential to living healthy and being strong for your kids.