Getting Clear about What You Want
Once you understand that the universe supports you, and your thoughts and desires can become manifest, you can see the value in finding out who you are, how you can contribute to the world, and what you want. The truth is, perhaps you don't know the answers to these questions, and that is all right. You can take the time through meditation, yoga, chakra healing, and other methods to discover or remember your talents and how you can do what you love and attract what you love.
Notice How You Spend Your Energy
If you don't already know what you most desire, spend time getting to know what your heart's desire is. If you don't spend time on self-inquiry and self-care, notice if you spend too much of your energy focused on others. Focusing on others can come in the form of replaying over and over what someone has said to you, putting lots of interest in what others are doing (or not doing), dwelling on what's not right with you or the world, and wishing other people would change. Caring about others and their well-being is compassionate and beneficial. It can be a slippery slope, though. If you are focusing so much on others that you do not attend to what you need and can create in your life, then focusing on others could be an escape. Cultivate the balance between giving to others and nourishing your health and dreams.
When looking at other people's lives, it's possible at times to experience jealousy. One good way to deal with jealousy is not to spend time focusing on what that other person has. Instead, shift your attention to what you really want. Move your attention from jealousy toward what you are grateful you have and what you'd like next.
If you are used to focusing so much on others, and then you see them get what they want, this can cause you to have negative feelings toward them. You could have resentment or jealousy when someone else succeeds and you are dissatisfied with something in your life. If this happens, re-examine how you are spending your time. Are you productively seeking out what you want and need? It is your responsibility to create time for self-care and self-development. Someone else's success and happiness is not a threat to your own. Spend your energy wisely. Make time for others, and make time for you.
Effort Without Struggle
The beauty of manifesting your desires is that you don't have to struggle to attract what you want. You have to know what you want and then enjoy the process. Enjoyment is an important part of the manifestation process.
The effort is the part where you strip away the chatter and the noise to find out what you really want in your life. You examine where you are, what you are grateful for, and what you would like to attract. In this process, it's important to be very specific. There's no need to feel guilty or embarrassed about what you want. Make the list detailed. Whether it's a list of the qualities you want in a partner or a detailed description of a house you would like to buy, go for it! The more specific you are, the more you will get exactly what you want.
As you make this effort, you don't need to struggle. Make this easeful. You are creating what you want in your life, doesn't that sound good? Enjoy the process.
You Are the Archer
For an exquisite metaphor on you as an archer in life, read Paulo Coelho's The Bow, the Arrow, and the Target. It's a short work, describing you on the path of life as an archer with a bow, arrow, and target at your disposal. His work is poetic and poignant. He describes the bow as your body and your energy. He advises you to take care of it. Know that you can use it to harm others or to create goodwill; be mindful with this bow.
He calls the arrow your intention, the force that connects you to your desired object (the target). Then, he describes the target. You have chosen the target, and “If you look on the target as an enemy, you might even make a good shot but you will not manage to improve anything in yourself. You will spend your life just trying to put an arrow in the center of something made of paper or wood, which is absolutely useless. And when you are with other people you will complain all the time that you do not do anything interesting.” The metaphor illuminates and describes self-empowerment, your work in creating your life.