The thought that Mom and Dad are getting older and seem to be a little forgetful, and have less energy and more complaints about getting old, has probably been rolling around in the back of your mind for a while now. You make a mental note that one of these days, you're going to have to make some decisions about their care, and then you dismiss it for another day. Actually, this is when it would be best to intervene. Avoid a crisis and start talking to your parents about their wishes and expectations. Find out where their important papers and all their financial information are while they can remember and aren't .overly stressed.