As you help your aging parents and in-laws with such items as legal issues, Medicare and insurance processes, medical care, and housing, do what you can and need to for your own personal situation. Now that you have had an opportunity to see first hand how this process can affect the lives of so many people, plan now to make your own situation better for yourself, your spouse, and your children. Learn from the process and try to improve where you can. The goal is to make your last years as easy as possible for yourself and your family.