When laypeople visit monasteries they often wonder how they can be respectful and what behavior is expected of them. Although many people are curious as to what goes on in a Buddhist monastery and would like to speak with the monks or watch a meditation session, they are afraid they will be pestered for donations or pressured to convert.

However, you could say that Buddhism is a program of attraction rather than evangelism. Traditionally, Buddhism was a missionary religion, although in the West, Buddhists do not try to convert others to Buddhism. They might speak enthusiastically of their personal practices if asked, but it is highly unlikely that you would be solicited for money or anything else at a monastery or through mail, e-mail, or other means. A donation (dana) might be suggested at certain monasteries, much like a museum will have a suggested donation box in the admission area.

Most monasteries welcome visitors and most visits are free of charge. Classes, retreats, and lectures might charge something to cover meals, lodging, and depending on the institution, instruction may be part of the fee or be addressed separately through dana. Having said this, some retreats have become very expensive and out of reach to the person of average means. Fancy retreats at spa locations are more and more common. In typical American style, the dharma has become a status symbol in some, but not all, circles. Some monasteries have stores where they sell art, meditation supplies, and clothing to help generate money to support the monastery. Most sitting sessions will be free of charge. Check the Internet for a monastery near you if you would like to visit, and you can probably find information on the site that will put you at ease before you visit. Call ahead or e-mail with any questions you might have. Most centers will have a scholarship program.