Think about someone whom you couldn’t live without, and then think about another person who drives you out of your mind on a regular basis. Would you feel any differently about them if their appearances suddenly changed? If your boyfriend gained weight or lost all of his hair overnight, for example, would that affect the way you “see” him?

If you want to go further with this thought process, imagine that you’re blind. How in tune are you with the personalities that surround you every day? Is there a chance that you haven’t given someone a fair shot because he doesn’t live up to your standard of beauty?

You’ve no doubt seen at least one couple in your lifetime who don’t seem to be an equal physical match—in other words, one of them appears to be way out of the league of the other. How did these people come together, you wonder? Well, one of them was open to the possibility that a soul mate isn’t always physically perfect … and chances are, the other one displayed a stunning amount of charm and confidence through nonverbal cues.