You may not feel like socializing when pain and other arthritis symptoms are especially bothersome. There is no minimizing the impact arthritis can have on your social life. You may have to consciously put yourself into social situations to ensure your social life does not become extinct. Recognize the problems that you have and try to find solutions.

Going to the Movies or a Concert

Seating may be a problem if you have hip or knee arthritis. It may be difficult to get up from low seats: Don't let that keep you away. Perhaps it would help to bring a pillow or cushion to raise you up. If you are going to a movie, some of the seats are close to railings and that may help you get up more easily. Sit closer to the front so you can forgo the stairs. Don't be shy about admitting you need a little extra consideration from friends or family members who are going with you.

Be sure you get the seats you need (e.g., handicapped seats or seats at the end of a row). If you don't take the time to check, you may end up in seats which are uncomfortable or inaccessible and the experience will be ruined.

Walk ′Til You Drop

There are many situations that require a lot of walking. You may be inclined to avoid such situations — it may seem easier to just skip it. The problem with skipping it is that it compounds feelings that you are missing out. The negative feelings associated with that can increase stress and depression, which in turn exacerbates pain.

You may be thinking you have no control; you just can't walk far. Perhaps that's so — unassisted. Try using assistive equipment such as canes, walkers, wheelchairs, or electric scooters. You may get much farther if you do and you may not have to miss out after all.

Party Pooper?

Many people with chronic arthritis, mobility problems, or high levels of pain are turned off by the thought of attending a large party, especially ones that will be attended by acquaintances rather than close family and friends. You may think it's not worth your effort. You never enjoy yourself and it's better to stay home, right?

It's hard to put on a happy face when you're in pain. You can't stand for a long period of time. You don't know where you will be able to sit. You don't drink, and shaking hands hurts! You can give in to all of that; they are all legitimate concerns. You can also look for real solutions and not feed your inclination to isolate yourself. For example, call your host or hostess and ask if they would mind making sure there will be a firm seat available. If someone sits in your seat and you need to sit, politely explain your situation. People are very accommodating when they understand.

If you don't drink and want to avoid having to repeat that over and over throughout the evening, keep a half full glass in your hand and take sips. To avoid the pain of shaking hands (literally), keep that drink in your right hand. Become creative with your solutions. Don't convince yourself you don't belong at the party.

When You Have to Cancel

Even when you have the best of intentions and try to remain socially active, arthritis will still force you to cancel a date or an event from time to time. Don't make canceling easy, even when necessary. If it becomes easy to cancel, you may begin to develop a pattern. To avoid the trap of isolation, be sure that you reschedule every date or event which must be cancelled.